The word for today is Follower!
Everyone and I mean everyone, follow someone!
Even the most powerful leaders in the world follow in the footsteps of someone who has become their model!
The irrefutable requirement of a good leader is to be a good follower.
The substance of this word lies in the concept if we follow we’ll!
In fact, the attributes of a good follower are the same to becoming a good leader.
The one who follows must TRUST his leader. Whoever leads must TRUST his followers!
The one who follows must be OBEDIENT and DISCIPLINED. Whoever leads must be OBEDIENT and DISCIPLINED!
Those who follow must have the desire to be part of a TEAM. Those who lead must have the desire to be part of a TEAM.
All the attributes of a good follower lead to the attributes of a good leader!
If you follow well you have the potential to lead successfully.
If you are a good follower you have the great advantage of connecting with your followers because you’ve been where they are now and you know exactly what they need!
The word for today is discouragement!
Encouragement means grafting courage within us.
A courage that produces hope, energy, joy, vitality and zest for life!
Discouragement does exactly the opposite.
It sucks away the courage and all the good fruits that the same produces in us.
All of us face moments of discouragement in which the circumstances, the people around us and the negative emotions suck away our lifeblood.
What are we to do in these critical times?
The answer is clear, even if difficult to implement.
Discouragement can be won from within and the only agents capable of doing this is we ourselves.
It is us who must intentionally inject encouragement in ourselves and not wait for people and circumstances to do it for us!
Here is the formula to overcome discouragement: We must encourage ourselves!
Whether we like it or not, there are two voices that continually speak to our hearts, change the parameters of our mind and, therefore, influence our actions and our behavior.
They are the negative voice and positive voice!
The negative voice highlights what is wrong while the positive highlights what is good and how it can solve and remove the obstacles that inevitably accompany our life.
The negative voice speaks of what is wrong, the positive voice talks about how to find the solution to what is wrong.
The solution lies in the volume control.
We must learn to lower the volume of the negative voice and increase that of the positive voice that offers solutions and not just raw analysis of reality.
Handling the two volumes intentionally allows us to control and contain what is good and encouraging and prevent it from being sucked away by discouragement.
The choice is ours!
No one can do it for you!
We must learn, once and for all, what it means to encourage ourselves, this is only antidote to overcome discouragement!
The word for today is Efficiency!
I remember that a few years ago my boiler stopped working.
It was cold, so my plumber took 2 days before coming to see what was wrong.
As soon as he arrived, he removed the panel and started checking all the contacts.
Everything was fine but the boiler would not start anyways!
Then he took a hammer from his work bag and with surgical precision he hammered one of the boiler tubes.
The boiler started working great!
When I asked how much it was he said 100 euro!
I then asked him to justify the cost since I thought it was exaggerated!
He replied: 1 euro for using my hammer, 99 euro for having hammered at the right point of the tube!
The lesson I learned is that the intensity of our work is not so important, but it’s important to work smart and know exactly where to hit!
To be effective means to work intelligently and not just intensely!
No matter the years of experience we have, what matters is how we evaluate the experience of those years.
The evaluation of our action leads us to always work smart and always strike on the right place, with intelligence!
The word for today is contagious!
Whether we like it or not, our daily living brings us in touch with other people.
When you get in touch with others, 2 things happen:
1. We give or receive a positive contagion
2. We give or receive a negative contagion
There is not a third possibility!
My question is whether we prefer a positive contagion or negative contagion.
The question is clearly rhetorical!
In fact, if we could choose which contagion to receive, the answer would certainly be to be influenced positively by the people we come into contact with.
In the same way, other people prefer to receive our positive contagion!
In our daily life, we add value and positive contagion to others or we detract value because of our negativity!
Therefore, let us examine ourselves and the type of contagion with which we influence others.
In the same way, let’s rub shoulders with those who positively influence us and run away from those who negatively influence us. An old proverb says “who walks with the lame learns to limp”.
I add that those who walk with those who positively influence them, learn to add value to others, thus giving a positive meaning to the mission of their life!
The word for today is unity!
As a Leader I discovered that we all do not have to have the same opinion to be united.
In fact, I prefer to have around me people who have opinions different than mine. The reason for this attitude lies in the fact that the different opinions broaden my horizons, compliment my thinking, challenge my view of life and make me more mature in my decisions!
Therefore I do not expect that all embrace my ideas and my way of thinking. The unity that I seek is the unity of the heart, where my pulse is identified with the beat of those around me, so that it brings out the true values we all believe in!
The vision is in the head but the values lie in the heart!
So the most important thing is not the union of the mind but the union of the heart!
So we will have the will to sacrifice ourselves for one another and grow together because we have unity around the values we believe in!
This is the unity that I seek as a leader and I hope that is true for you too!
The word for today is collaborate!
Collaboration is different than cooperation.
Cooperation means coming together but collaboration means working together.
Collaborate comes from the Latin word co- with and labor- work.
Working together means acknowledging our strengths and focus on them but also being aware of our weaknesses, thus finding someone who can cover for them.
Mother Teresa used to say that she can do things I cannot do but I can do things she cannot do.
Together, however, we can do great things.
One is too small of a number to reach greatness.
How real is collaboration in your life? Who are the people you bring along side your life ? Do they excel in those area where you’re weak?
Often we bring along our way people in order to take care of our projects and forget that collaboration demands theirs and our 100%.
Let’s look for people we can add value to but who can also add value to us and our mission.
The word for today is implementation!
This word does not belong, unfortunately, to our everyday vocabulary.
We do not hear it or apply it often to our life.
Many think that implementation is an unconscious action that is part of the automatism of our being.
When we get up in the morning we implement actions like washing, getting dressed and go to work. At work we do, automatically, so many things even if our mind is focused on other thoughts and priorities.
Well this kind of implementation makes us live but does not make us grow!
Implementing means to intentionally start a process that leads us to achieve our goal!
Implementation is the beginning, and without it, there are only good intentions that do not lead anywhere and do not make us grow!
The importance of implementation is rendered the most by the saying: “Who starts well ends well” or even “Who starts well is halfway there.”
For those who want to grow and successfully achieve the purpose of their life, implementing is an action that becomes indispensable.
What are those things that you know are right to do and yet find it difficult to implement?
You have to start and you have to do it now!
Begin to implement because this is the most important step to start the path to success!
Who starts well is halfway there but who does not start is never in the race!
No to implement intentionally is the greatest obstacle to be overcome in order to get the most out of our lives.
The Bible says that today is the day of salvation. Not yesterday or tomorrow, but TODAY!
Implement your decisions today, start today your new adventure, don’t push it to tomorrow, this is the only way to enter in the race in order to achieve the objectives you have set for your life!
The word for today is insecurity!
Competence does not compensate for the insecurity.
“From that day Saul showed jealousy toward David.” 1Samuel 18:9
Insecure leaders are dangerous to themselves, their followers and the organizations they lead.
This happens because the leadership position amplifies personal problems. Any negative baggage we bring into our lives, the same becomes heavier when we try to lead others. Here are several common aspects that have insecure leaders:
They do not instill security in others. To become effective leaders we must make feel good those who follow us.
Insecure leaders take from others more than they can give.
Insecure leaders are always looking for appreciation, acknowledgment and acceptance. This makes them seek their own security instead than infusing it in others.
They limit the best members of their team. Show me a leader insecure and I will show you someone who is not able to celebrate the successes of others and of his team. The insecure leader appropriates the best work of his own team!
The insecure leaders continually limit the potential of their organization. When members of our team are not recognized, they get discouraged and slow down their productivity and their potential. When this happens, the entire organization suffers!
Let’s try to determine the source of our security.
It lies in the fact that God loves us and has a wonderful plan for our lives. Each of us is a vital link in an endless chain! Let us trust in God and He will make our path straight. True security lies NOT in ourselves, but in THE ONE who guides us. He knows the right route for the mission entrusted to us. If you know the Lord, and you trust him, you will find the security you have been looking for!
The word for today is duty, the real seed to success!
Growing in Sicily a recurring phrase for me was to fulfill my duty.
A visit of condolences, attendance at a ceremony and more was always followed by the phrase: so we perform our duty!
I say this because our duties came and are often seen as a façade actions and not as something we do with our heart.
It is clear that duties are not always easy to fulfill and require intentional efforts on our part.
As a father and a husband almost always for me it was a great effort to fulfill my duty to provide everything for my wife and daughters. I always did it not because it was easy and enjoyable but because it was right!
Here is the secret of fulfilling our duty: over time, doing our duty will bring much fruit as a result of our loyal investment of time, resources, and energy.
Therefore let us rejoice in doing our duty reminding us that the time is approaching when we shall see the positive results and fruit of our efforts!
My challenge for you and for me is: are we fulfilling our duty?
Let us not be disappointed, because we always reap what we have sown!
The word for today is Involvement!
Most people like to participate from outside and enter the game only when they think they are sure to win.
Everyone knows the famous words of lawyers that when they win a cause they say WE WON, but if they lose they say YOU LOST!I
I remember once at the stadium a spectator who, while eating a giant sandwich and drinking at least one liter of Coca Cola, criticized the players who, according to him, did not give the best of themselves.
I was tempted to take off the giant sandwich and the Coca Cola bottle and tell him to enter the field and show all his agonism!
Everyone criticizes and gives advice spitting judgments!
It’s easy to criticize when you are not involved first-person!
Keep in mind that trophies are not won on the bench but on the playing field.
Leave your spectator seat and embrace your involvement because each one of us has an important role to play in the race of our life!
The word for today is trust.
“Blessed is the man who puts his trust in the Lord” Psalm 40.4
Trusting means to firmly believe in the honesty, integrity and loyalty of the other person.
Although trust delays to settle, it is necessary to obtain an intimate and meaningful relationship, it is essential because it will deepen mutual understanding.
Trust makes sure that people share the needs and dreams to an increasing level of importance. It is through trusting that people depend on each other and work together to achieve common goals.
Trust allows people to maintain a close friendship.
Trust is fundamental in giving velocity to our objectives. In fact if one is worth of trust, other people will embrace more quickly his initiatives and plans.
In addressing the changes it is not as important how ambitious is our program or our destination but how much percentage of trust we have accumulated through our personal and daily actions!
The absence of trust, mistrust, means that people do not believe in the other.
They feed reciprocal suspicions and do not reveal themselves to one another.
Working in groups is difficult, tiring and generally poorly productive.
Masks and evasive tactics hide the true feelings and true needs.
People are reluctant to depend on the strength of others, teamwork suffers or doesn’t even develop.
People tend to attack one another instead than fighting TOGETHER the difficulties that appear on the horizon.
Friendships are fragile, usually unable to face the trials that will inevitably come.
Trust is necessary to give meaning to a relationship. A little bit of confidence is necessary for any type of relationship; more high levels of trust are needed to more intimate relationships.
Trust frees us from the burden of constantly questioning the true motives of the other.
Many people believe that their friends, worthy of their confidence, are the greatest treasure of their lives.
Benefits when trust increases
*People can confide in one another.
*Time and energy are not wasted in evasive tactics. *
*New and interesting things are learned with others, including strength and fragility. *
*Team work develops.
The human heart, at whatever age, opens only to the heart that intentionally opens first” Maria Edgeworth
Think of vulnerability, tests and actions of Jesus. All aim to conquer my trust and yours.
What a model and best ally we can find in him as we continue to give meaning to our lives and our daily actions!
The word for today is attractive!
Who among us does not want to be an attractive person?
The culture surrounding the Western world, puts its emphasis on the physical and outward attraction.
During my life I have noticed that if attraction is not accompanied by an inner attraction, its effect on others lasts for a very short time.
The real attraction lies in our attitude.
Positive and outgoing people , who wish to help and add value to others, taking them in meaningful journeys, are the ones who attract permanently!
Physical and external attraction can be palpated in a few millimeters of skin, but the real attraction is inside having a depth that is much thicker!
If we are attractive inside, our attraction will eventually overflow outside. Think of how much you spend today to be attractive having surgical operations that are done to slow the decline of our body.
Few can afford it!
This is not necessarily negative. Taking care of your appearance is good. I remember, from the vain person that I am, when I was little I cried out asking my mom to stop the wind because it was messing my hair 😀
What is negative is that many do not care about their inner appearance and attraction!
The internal attraction is available to everyone, you just must want it!
Investing in improving our attitude, learning how to invest on others, bringing a smile where there is pain, sharing the principles on how to discover the call for our lives, are among the things that make us really attractive!
As said before, who is attractive inside will eventually become attractive outside!
Perhaps this is the explanation of the statement that God made in the Old Testament through the prophet Samuel when he said : God does not look at the exterior of a person but God looks at the heart!
Apply these principles and develop your inner attraction and you too will be an attractive person ….. in the true sense of the word!