The word for today is Confrontation!
“ Speaking the truth in love”.
It often happens that you have to face a confrontation to clarify a relationship that is about to rotten!
When I face a confrontation I find a thousand excuses for not doing it!
This is because the confrontation implies things I do not want to say to people I do not want to confront.
I do understand, however, that without confrontation the relationship inevitably tends to poison and eventually die!
How did I learn to confront others?
First of all, I understand that the word confrontation, in itself, means facing in the front, mind with mind, culture with culture, perspective with perspective.
This way of confronting puts the interlocutors on the defensive by giving ample space to prejudices and postures that determine a destructive end before the confrontation begins!
I found that two elements can be the basis of a constructive confrontation : Honesty and Sincerity.
I must be honest and objective in showing and communicating the reasons for the confrontation ! I must understand the position of my interlocutor and give him the benefit of the doubt before arriving at a collision course!
But the secret of a successful confrontation is sincerity!
Sincerity gives precedence to the heart and not just to the mind. Sincerity gives space to our feelings more than our words!
When honesty and sincerity take the lead in the confrontation , then and only then we can find a positive and constructive solution to solve our problems!
Our culture seems to have become increasingly violent and belligerent, aiming at a confrontation that almost always produces an abortion!
With honesty and sincerity change the course and intentionally study yourself to make a healthy confrontation that will result in a better relationship!
The word for today is compassion.
A key aspect of the leadership is that the leader guides with the heart first and then with the mind.
Clearly, the leader must motivate and lead with a well-defined vision, both specific and measurable but his followers will abandon him if his heart is not right.
The heart of the leader is right when it is driven by compassion.
The root of the word compassion comes from the Latin word com- patire, which means to suffer with, or better to have the same feelings of the people we lead, feeling on our skin what they feel.
In Jesus’ life, following his way to lead people, we see that before any teaching or before any healing action was shown, he acted MOVED BY COMPASSION!
Jesus went to the people, he saw, he felt in his heart and then he acted. The action of Jesus always used this progression: first he connected with the people’s hearts and then he acted.
Jesus first won the hearts of the people and then renewed their minds with his teachings.
The people that we influence do not respond to our guide if they do not see our heart which reveals the true motives of our leadership. This is the reason why I am sure that at the root of our success whether we lead ourselves, our families or our organizations , there is compassion.
In showing compassion the leader gives top priority to the needs of others and therefore is positioned to serve.
Because service is the sole purpose of our leadership, compassion becomes the primary element of a healthy leadership.
Let us examine ourselves and evaluate our level of compassion that surely will reveal the true effectiveness of our leadership.
The word for today is to downsize!
Generally this word has a negative connotation. In fact, many people think that we should take with us all that we acquire in life.
Be careful, though, because not everything that is acquired is positive for us!
There are titles and positions, friendships, commitments, strategies and emotions that could slow down the ride of our lives making us arrive too late to grab the opportunities that life has in store for us!
Downsizing should be a discipline for us that must be applied in order to retain what is really important for us to reach the goal of our life and to get rid of the excess weight of unnecessary and negative things and people, which is the main cause of our mediocrity!
Then get rid of traditions, wrong ways of thinking , emotions and resentments that poison the heart and mind, wrong people of our team and in our intimate circle and, especially, the fear and dread that anesthetize the momentum of our efforts!
Let’s take an inventory of what we are and what we have, free ourselves of things, people and poisonous and negative thoughts and realize the freedom that we have in downsizing in order to accelerate the pace that leads us to the goal towards which each of us hopes to get!
John the Baptist said that he had to decrease (downsize) for Jesus to grow in him. The apostle Paul said that we have to renew our minds in order to change the course of our lives.
No matter if we are people of faith or not, the absolute principle remains that the one who downsizes with wisdom and discernment gets the power and energy to get to the finishing line of victory!
The word for today is incredible!
“To be content with normality is the fastest way to fall into mediocrity.” (Gaetano Sottile)
I remember when putting my daughters to bed I asked how much they loved me.
I expected them to answer: we love you so much.
The answer surprised me! In fact, they said to me: Daddy we love you a galaxy, a universe of love!
Here it is, the definition of incredible is something that goes beyond this world and this life.
I wonder if our expectations, dreams, and visions are amazing and incredible or just realistic.
If we do not insert the word incredible in our plans, we will never reach our full potential and risk reaching mediocre goals.
So we must plan incredible goals for our lives both personally and professionally, goals that go beyond normality.
To be content with normality is the fastest way to fall into mediocrity.
If we feel bigger than our goals, we have a career. If our goals are bigger than us, that is, incredible, we have a call!
This I know, we must have visions and dreams that go beyond this life to reach goals that count and give meaning to this life!
“To be content with normality is the fastest way to fall into mediocrity.” (Gaetano Sottile).
The word for today is credible!
It is deceived the person who believes he has found the perfect leader, the perfect friend or the perfect partner.
No one can claim the merit of being perfect, although two thousand years ago the world saw the perfection in Jesus and then killed him on the cross!
Since perfection is not human but divine, our research should focus on the credibility of the person and of his actions.
Being credible means to be spontaneous and transparent demonstrating our character through means to grow our actions and our growth.
Being credible means to be authentic which means to be consistent with the values we believe in .
Probably the human quality that comes closest to perfection is just being credible. Today more than ever the world is looking for credible people and leaders to follow.
The most important test to verify our credibility lies in the personal question: Can I honestly say that I believe in myself and in what I show others to be?
In the chaos of a world full of synthetic stuff that looks real but it is not, the authentic personality of a credible person is immediately evident to the general attention.
Credible is a good word but, more importantly, a fundamental quality of the leader.
The word for today is Vitality!
“Being Vital is a choice that depends on our attitude, solely responsible for choosing the colors we want to give to our life!”
When I think of this word I see energy, enthusiasm, desire to live and optimism.
People with vitality face and lead their own days!
Such people do not exist but give meaning and value at every moment of their lives!
That’s it, those who live show vitality!
A visible and palpable component of vitality is that vitality is contagious.
Those who have vitality can create an intense environment full of positivity and purpose that influences and attracts all those around us.
Who wants to be close to people who complain and only highlight what is negative and paint in dark colors every moment of life?
Being Vital is a choice that depends on our attitude, solely responsible for choosing the colors we want to give to our lives!
However, a principle that I often quote, says that we can not give what we do not have!
To give life we must draw to a source of life.
It amazes me how people are ready to draw from sources of negativity and refuse to connect to sources of life.
Personally, as a man of faith, I follow the teaching of Jesus whose words are always sources of life and vitality.
Connecting with him means connecting to the greatest aqueduct of life: Jesus is life, though many of his false ambassadors show only judgment and only see life after death.
He came to give a rich life NOW, just connect with him by applying the teachings that he has left us.
Jesus is the vine and we are the branches. A vibrant stream of vitality must be connected to a vital life.
I hope you have chosen to be connected to the right vine, just so you can influence those around you with abundant vitality!